When I think about my friends I realize that there are only a few that I truly know will always be my friends. Lifelong friendship is rare these days because people just don't value their friends the way they should. Maybe it's because everyone thinks friendship is easy, and it should be in most aspects, but it's also something you have to work at. Because essentially nothing is worth anything if you don't have to work for it. You know this to be true. Just think about how much more you value your money when you earn it yourself. If you aren't willing to work at your relationships with your friends then you probably were never really friends. Friends disagree, get mad, laugh, cry, and sometimes they even loose touch for a while. What matters in a real friendship is that you always find your way back to one another. You may go days, weeks, months, sometimes even years, but when you do find that your paths have intersected once more it's like no time has passed at all. That's friendship, real friendship. Your friends are going to hurt your feelings and make mistakes. How do you know if they are real friends? Well it's easy. They'll always be there for you. If you call them at 3 o'clock in the morning they will answer the phone despite the fact that they have to wake up in 2 hours. When your car breaks down or you're home alone and sacred a friend will come. They always notice when your facebook status is a bit off of the regular. A friend never says anything about you when you're not around that they wouldn't say when you're around. Friends want to lift you up, never tear you down. My friends, the handful of people that are truly my real friends will be with me for the rest of my life. I may mess up and loose sight of my path in life, but I know I'll always have a home in the hearts of my friends. My friends are my foundation. I always know that I can turn to them for guidance and support, never judgment.
A Few Stories I Hope you Laugh at...
"The Day a Friendship blossomed from Body Odor"
Picture it. Fourth grade. Two smart kids that won the special privilege of being Ushers for the 6th grade graduation. Two kids that stood at the door and bickered back and forth mostly because he was a boy and she was girl. At this age bickering is the way to a great friendship. He was tall and skinny. Skinny is probably not the right adjective. He was TINY. Stick skinny, to say the least. She was wrapped in sheets with a Athena headdress (They were dressed as characters from Greek myths). They walked the 6th graders in. The auditorium was stifling hot and hand held fans vibrated through the room. The boy and girl were stuck sitting beside each other for the whole program. Unfortunately, the boy stuck to the high Heavens. The girl tried not to be rude, but she wanted to do nothing more then hold her nose. If only they knew then that that one experience would lead to future of new ones.
"Oh the Things She Made Me Do"
My current roommate and I have been friends since the 7th grade, and the list of things that she has convinced me to do could go on for days. As she has said before she is my exclamation mark while I am her period. To put this in simple terms she adds spice to my life and I bore her? Well I hope not! 7th grade is the first years we started jr. high and this is the year where you figure out where you fit in. During the late fall of that year she convinced me to try out for the girls basketball team. So here I went all 4'11" of me to basketball practice. Yes, I was intimidated and really didn't want to do it. I did it because my friend was doing it. Not in a "I woulda done drugs if she had of way" but simply in a I've got a friend to go with so I might as well. This attitude has followed me during our friendship. Fortunately, I definitely grown out of the shell I was hiding in during my jr. high days. She later convinced me to run track. We convinced each other to get navel piercing. She's convinced me to go to a party where I was probably one of two white people. I've convinced her to go ice skating. I'm going to convince her to try hookah with me. I guess what I"m trying to say is we encourage each other to do things we may not have done without that encouragement, and that's one of the things I love best about our friendship. I always know that if there is something I want to do she'll most likely be willing to give it a shot with me and vice versa.
"And He's Probably Sat through Every Girl Breakdown Possible"
I have another friend who's a guy but sometimes I forget that. No, I probably don't forget it. He's completely straight, completely manly but he has literally sat through every "girl" breakdown I have ever had. He's sat on the phone with me for hours while I cried over my ex-boyfriend. He's come to my house because I had to stay alone and I was afraid. He's threatened to beat people up for me and he was totally serious. I can complain about my menstrual cycle to him or my boyfriend. He loves whoever I love as in as long as my boyfriend is good to me and I love him then he will, too. We've certainly had the most ups and downs as I've had with any of my friends. We allowed life to get in the way of our friendship for a little while and that time lost is something to always be regretted, but I do believe we are making up for it quite nicely. Our friendship is the ultimate story of what true friends are. We picked up exactly where we left off and that's I never doubt that we will always be friends.
These are the three people that have been my friends the longest. They know most of my secrets and they love me despite that. They never judge me, but their never afraid to give me their opinions. I love them like they are my family and always will.
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